Children with ADHD often fail, despite their best efforts to meet the expectations of those around them.
Things that are easy for “normal” children with good self-control are sometimes simply impossible for children with ADHD.
As a result, their self-confidence is often destroyed, therefore, you need to help your child through success stories to regain more self-esteem despite their ADHD.
How do you Manage Child’s with ADHD
Promote your child’s strengths! For example, if they are very helpful and help younger children/siblings in the playground, you should encourage your child to do this more often and tell them that you think they are very nice.
Set realistic goals that your child can achieve too! For example, don’t let a child with ADHD keep quiet for half an hour, but give 10 minutes as a goal.
Encourage your child (“I know you can do this!”) And praise them for little improvements.
There will be slowness in completing set tasks, don’t worry, you simply have to learn to endure to a certain extent.
Skin contact is also important for children with ADHD, although stimuli are sometimes too strong for them.
Carry your child in your arms often, put your hand on their shoulder, or stroke their hair. But please always make sure that your child is comfortable to touch.
My Tip for Dealing with ADHD
Some boys (and also girls) with ADHD do not like to cuddle and be cuddled, even when skin contact would do them well.
Try a “dry bath”. Soap each other pantomime and then rub yourself dry with a (played or real) towel.
You can massage your child very well, also treat him more intensively
Clear Rules and Limits for ADHD
Children with ADHD are problematic but can find their way around life better if they are understood, and given special care.
Because of their condition, you need to have a lot of patience in order to cope with their inadequacies
Such children need a regular daily routine, predefined meal, bedtime, and other activities such as going to kindergarten in the morning or going to the playground in the afternoon.
Heapally advice: Children with ADHD often find it difficult to deal with unforeseen changes in their daily routine and then react badly to it.
If possible, inform them about changes as early as possible and repeatedly.
An orderly environment, including a child’s room that is as tidy as possible, in which it is better to have too few than too many toys, helps children with ADHD to concentrate better on a game and to stay more focused.
- In a cramped nursery school, he would be distracted by the different stimuli.
- Do not set too many tasks that your child will not be able to handle.
- The child’s daily task should also be well programmed. You can introduce certain tasks to be completed at set times, such as cleaning up before lunch and dinner.
- Only regulate the things that are most important to you and make sure that these few, important rules and limits are really followed consistently.
This is very exhausting for you as a parent, but the only really promising method for children with ADHD.
The top principle in ADHD when rules or limits are violated: Act instead of talking!
- Instead of admonishing your child several times, go to him immediately after repeating the instruction and make sure that your child does what is advised.
- For example, hold your child’s hand when they “don’t know” how to put away their shoes or books.
- Collect the toy from him that he has just forcibly snatched from another child or thrown around the room.
- If he annoys or beats his siblings all the time, disturbs them, or talks non-stop while you are on the phone, then just be calm with him and correct him privately.
- Take your child out in a friendly, but clear and firm manner or, if necessary, carry them out if they can not do that on there own.
Parental guide on ADHD children Psychology
Many children with ADHD are grumpy about the morning, and getting dressed in the morning often leads to the first fight of the day.
With the regular passing of instructions, you can help children from three years of age who can dress themselves almost on their own.
Together with your child, lay out the clothes for the next day in the evening and line them up in the correct order (underpants, undershirt, stockings, sweater, pants) face up either on the floor or on a couch, so that your child can “work through” themselves.
This way, getting dressed is much more relaxed, and your child will certainly be very proud if they dressed all by themselves.
If your child complies with a request without any “drama”, you should praise him immediately.
Try to recognize goodwill alone, even if the result of the effort is often far from perfect!
If your child comes into the house with completely dirty shoes but has properly put them in the shoe cupboard after they have already lost a number of pieces of dirt in the hallway, you should either look over the dirt or put the vacuum cleaner in your child without reproach.
Strengthen the positive, pay less attention to the negative (if not particularly tragic)!
A Sensible Reward System for Children with ADHD
The “reward snail” is a reward system that creates additional incentives for your child to show the desired behavior.
If correct behavior in children with ADHD is reinforced by praise or, better still, a small reward, it is much more likely that they will show this more frequently in the future.
This system is particularly recommended for tasks or requirements that are particularly difficult for your child.
For example, there is a monkey show every evening and it takes forever until your child is finally in bed, they could receive a reward point for every evening they are in bed within a specified time (possibly using the “egg alarm method”).
Agree with your child what the reward points are “worth”. For example, if they have received four points, they can choose a smaller reward (e.g. an additional bedtime story, half an hour of extra playtime with mom or dad).
There is a greater reward for eight points achieved, for example, a visit to the ice cream parlor or swimming pool or possibly a long-awaited toy (which should not necessarily be expensive!).
If your child has received a reward point, they can either color a point in the snail shell with a colored pencil or stick a colored adhesive point (better still: a small sticker with a picture).
Depending on your child’s wishes, you can design one or more of your own “reward pictures” to color in or stick in dots or draw from a coloring book or a template for window pictures.
Well, suited are, for example, the following motifs: snake, caterpillar, train (with many wagons), mother goose with chicks in single file, etc.
Give the reward point immediately after successfully completing a task!
For children with ADHD under three years of age, it makes more sense to reward the instruction they have followed with something they’ll find interesting.